The direction of getting well

When we seek out help for our health / wellbeing why do we do it?

I know that may sound like a ridiculous question, but humour me and think about it.

I’ve asked many people about this and indeed I do so every day when I work with people. I have noticed that people are moving in one of two directions.

These are two directions with very different consequences.

What’s more to the outside observer it can be hard to tell which direction someone is going in without really being with them and asking; two people can be doing the same thing for different reasons.

We either go backwards, attempting to restore ourselves to how we used to be before this pain or symptom started… or we go forwards, we reorganise, we strive for something new and a life a new and different level.

We either attempt to stop, minimise, reduce or get rid of something we don’t like or we want to maximise, enhance, optimise and embrace our experience.

We either experience symptoms as an annoying interruption to our life that must be stopped or useful feedback demanding that we change what we’re doing or how we do it.

There are times when going backwards is lifesaving. If someone is having a heart attack, attempting to reduce that symptom is a GOOD thing. However if this is our only approach to our health, wellbeing and even life we may experience dire consequences.

When we only lived till 30 or 40 this was no big deal. Now, however, we need to heed symptoms as feedback that something needs to change and our life needs to reorganise somehow.

Depending on who you listen to / read, we waste about £11 - £18 billion a year on treating people in a restorative “let’s take you back to how you were before” (I’m paraphrasing) in the NHS. This is not because of poor practitioners, far from it. It is because the paradigm of how we really get well needs an update.

That also does not include the cost of loss of quality of life people suffer by not being at their best.

At Thrive we take a very different approach for a very important reason. We choose to play the long reorganizational healing game and not the short restorative ‘fix it’ approach. We boldly usher people who are interested into a new paradigm and right now both research and economics are suggesting this is a must.

So my parting advice is that when you or a friend or loved one want to seek out a health care practitioner ask them why? What is you seek to be different? And love them enough to ask if it’s a worthwhile goal.

I believe we are born to experience our power and greatness and that our health and wellbeing is an integrated part of that. Trying to go backwards with our health and forwards with our life puts as in conflict with dire consequences. That conflict wastes time, effort and energy that we deserve to harness and put to much better use.

To you going forwards,